Doin’ It vs. Not Doin’ It

Doin’ It. 

Ah, you gotta love the joy of sex. Not the book (though I’ve heard it’s good). The actual joy — the thrill of the chase, the first kiss, the wonder of what the other person will feel like, or what their reaction will be when you do your favorite signature “thing” you like to do to a lover. Or simply the familiarity of a partner, the secureness of adventure, the unclaimed then reclaimed territories of your bodies and imaginations. The work, the “happy soreness” of the next day, the noises, the ideas, all of it!

In Annabelle’s diary in The Distance Between Here and Space, she writes: “Maybe that’s why people are so insistent on judging promiscuous people – sex brings out the deepest and the weirdest and the truest parts of you.”

And oftentimes that is true. What good things has it brought out in you? Have you discovered anything through it?

From discovering our beauty as humans to loving the feeling of giving and receiving pleasure, to “hey I had NO idea I could bend that way!”, one discovers some interesting things about themselves during sex. As someone who spent several years reclaiming or sexuality and her right to it, it’s something that’s even MORE special and fun when you discover the self-ownership that comes with it as well.

Not Doin’ It

Ah the moodswings of no-sex. Some people eat. Or smoke. Or do inane physical activities. Or anxiously plan out the “next time”. But as we all know, people react funny to long spans of time that go without getting laid. It’s a fact — sex is as natural and necessary as eating! There are many reasons why we don’t fuck as often as we should. Emotional state, schedule, jobs, other responsibilties, relationship issue, “can’t” find the right person to get with, and so on and so on and so on. But really, we all need and deserve a happy, healthy sex life. Be good to your body! Fuck more! Don’t worry about your appearance if that’s what troubles you. Self-confidence is the hottest thing you could ever “wear”, and it’s invisible 😉 The more honest and happy you are with YOURSELF first, the more people and things and events will line up for you. Especially at crotch-level ; ) 

So get with it. Happy discovering. Find something to inspire you to learn a new tactic today! 

Here’s some music to set the mood. And some fun positions. Enjoy!! And for added inspiration, read Annabelle’s diary in full.

There’s no excuse now! Sex positions for different heights, weights, penis sizes and energy levels! Holy shit!

One of the best songs from a damn good movie, it’s “Sensual Woman” by The Herbaliser